Removing the violent students from school
Similarly Ken Klonsky, a recently retired teacher with many years' experience
working with students with behaviour problems, was clear that this approach
works best:
They're not working, they're throwing something around the room, you
take them outside and say "Look, what's this problem today?" You only
have six or seven other kids working individually in there, and then you
can go through that with them...Because I was trained in that way, I
actually did that even when I was teaching larger classes because I know
that the best way of dealing with these kids is just talk to them. Not to
confront them in front of other people. And I would get much better
results doing that, because the kids could see that you cared. Often that's
all they needed. If you said "Look, I don't have the time to deal with this
now, but see me after class or after-school or lunchtime and I'll be
happy to talk to you." That makes a big difference.... (Ken Klonsky)
Ken Klonsky also gave a vivid description of how to move from confrontation
to collaboration:
One of the most important things was not to be oppositional. So even
when you told them something or you made a request, you don't do it in
front of them, you do it alongside them. Because the problem is not the
kid or you, the problem should be the work or the situation. So if you go
alongside them, you kind of point and say "Well, look. Here's the
problem we're having. You're not learning this and neither is anybody
else, so how can we-how can we together solve this problem?" (Ken
Klonsky)
But there are fewer and fewer "bodies" in the school to provide this sort of
support, to engage with students and try to understand why violence is
occurring. Instead of questioning why students are misbehaving, schools
institute consequences:
...[W]hen people say "this person has an anger management problem,"
we all deal with anger. So... do you deal with the end result in terms of
focusing on consequence, or do you deal with what got them in the first
place into that difficulty: the triggers... I think that's what you focus
on... (Dale R. Callender)
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