Removing the violent students from school
Veronica, thirty-one, explains, "I did a lot of acting out when I
was younger. There were social workers, psychiatrists. But no one
ever asked what was going on with me. Basically they were
putting labels on me, telling me what a terrible person I was. My
acting out as a kid was related to the sexual abuse. I started a fire
in the woods. I was in the fifth grade and I started skipping
school. It seems as if social workers and such were always in my
life, but I don't know what they were doing other than moving
me around and stuff." Although running away and delinquency
often cause additional problems for the child-victim they are
ways of expressing her turmoil and attempts at exercising some
type of control. (Dinsmore, 1991:27)
Many of the students who are the perpetrators of violence in school will be
those who are experiencing violence at home. Students who have been violent
are only too aware of the way violence can quickly become part of their
identity, and explained how hard it is to be seen or even to see themselves in a
different light:
Don't think about the person who committed the violence as a
perpetrator, think of them as a person. Because what I've seen in
schools is that when you did something really bad, you get punished
for it, and that cloud hangs over your head. It's like a shroud of
shame that you have to walk with. So a lot of the kids end up going
with a life of walking on that road for the rest of their lives... They
don't take time to look at them as a person and wonder - why did
you do this? (Zane Holder)
The students the child welfare reporting policies are theoretically designed to
protect said repeatedly that nobody asked why they were misbehaving. When
the school clamps down firmly on their behaviour-behaviour that is perhaps
one way to break silence about violence being done to them when other routes
to talk directly and maintain control are so limited-they may have an added
sense of injustice: others who hurt them get away with violence, but when they
are violent, they immediately get into trouble.
Staff in an after-school leadership program which works with both perpetrators
and victims of violence described the value of asking why a student is
misbehaving, rather than only instituting punishments:
One of the kids was acting out in one of the programs, you know, sort
of swearing, being a bit aggressive, and I pulled that kid out and just
said "I've noticed that you're acting this way today, is there
something that's going on with you?" You know, without judgment,
just... I've noticed you've been a bit more direct today, a little more
outspoken, something like that with, again, no judgment, and trying to
get behind that. ...my initial feeling around it was like, excuse my
French, but "Why is he acting like such a ---?" You know, like it's
really hard for the lesson to go on, and he's really disruptive. I was
feeling kind of angry, because as a staff member you feel responsible for
the kids really taking in the lesson basically. So instead I pulled him
aside at break, and I was just like "You know, what's up with you
today?" and as it turned out, there was stuff going on. So it's a much
more empathic way to communicate. (LOVE staff)
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